My Kid Doesn’t Talk to Me About Their Emotions
Ever feel like no matter what you do, you just can’t get through to your kid?
You’ve read all the books …
Tried all the tactics …
And diligently stick to everything you should be doing …
But whenever you try to speak to them about emotions, they clam up?
If so … Welcome to the world of parenting an HSC :)
I’m not saying all HSCs are difficult to talk to about emotions.
But the majority are.
And that can lead parents to feeling disheartened, disillusioned, and like there’s no point even trying.
Many think outsourcing emotional regulation to a therapist is the only choice.
So they ask around, go for multiple assessments, and spend a small fortune on sessions for their kiddo, which do …
Absolutely nothing!
See, there can be a time and a place for therapy.
But emotional regulation isn’t it.
I know how common it is for parents to struggle to talk with HSCs about emotion.
But there’s also a way you can get through to them.
A way which has worked for every single parent who we’ve coached at MTC.
And that’s the 3C approach.
The 3 Cs are -
- Certainty
- Consistency
- Curiosity
You need to embody these traits, every single time you speak with your kiddo about emotions.
But what do they mean?
Well, with certainty, you need to show up as confident and self-assured.
If you doubt yourself, flip flop on your decisions, or approach situations in different states of mind (ie. one day you’re short-tempered, the next day you’re overly comforting) … That doesn’t show certainty.
So you need to show up like the most confident person in the world.
Your kid will pick up on that subconsciously, and you’ll automatically have their buy-in.
As for consistency, well, I guess I kinda covered that aspect there, too.
But this is vital.
Like I said, you can’t do one thing one day, and something completely different the next.
That doesn’t work for you, and it definitely doesn’t work for your child.
So how about that last one - curiosity?
Well, this is the one most parents get wrong.
Because they think that being certain means telling their child what to do.
But it doesn’t.
Your job is to get to the root of why they’re feeling like they are.
So ask questions.
Show a genuine interest in how they’re feeling.
And put yourself in ‘detective mode’ so you can try and understand things from their point of view.
When you can embrace these 3 Cs, and take them into every conversation about emotions, your kid won’t need therapy.
In fact, stepping foot in a therapist’s office will be the last thing they need.
Because what would you rather -
A kid who trusts you, feels able to open up with you, and who you have all the tools and skills to help …
Or a kid who completely shuts down around you, because they’re so reliant on a professional they only see once or twice a week?
I know which one I’d prefer.
And I know which one our clients prefer, too.
Because in MTC, we don’t assume the therapist role.
We know that wouldn't be a long-term solution, because kids would be way too reliant on us.
And once the program was over, the meltdowns would resume, and nothing would be any different!
Instead, we work with parents so they can provide everything their kiddo needs.
Through the good times and the bad.
So if you’ve been having a tough time with your kiddo’s emotions, I know we can help.
Whatever your specific situation, we’ve likely seen it, and know how to overcome it.
No matter how long you’ve been struggling …
How many professionals you’ve already gone to …
And even if you’re on the verge of throwing in the towel, because you just don’t know how to handle your child.
No situation is too severe.
Plus, our first call is 100% free.
So you have nothing to lose.
Click here to book some time on our calendar, and let’s talk about putting YOU back in control, and taking that first step to a calm, confident kiddo.
For parents with high school age teens, book here.
Talk soon,
Megghan
