Breaking the Meltdown Cycle - Why Doesn’t Therapy Work for This Issue?

Today’s blog is a must-read for any parent thinking of taking their child to therapy.

See, while hiring a therapist to help with your kid’s needs might seem like a responsible move …

Therapy is one of the best ways to make meltdowns worse.

That probably sounds controversial.

But there are 4 specific reasons I never recommend traditional therapy for HSCs:

Reason #1: Therapy is NOT a change-oriented process

Therapy focuses on feeling better in the moment, not creating lasting change.

And on the rare chance you do find a therapist who’s got an eye on the long-term future …

They tend to forget that highly-sensitive children are significantly uncertain in their capabilities.

That means they often can’t apply the principles taught in-session, to everyday instances that cause them distress and discomfort.

Reason #2: Therapy drives a wedge between the child and parents

Where therapy is child-led, and usually only 1 hour a week …

… this leaves parents not sure what to do when the child does experience a meltdown, or is seriously struggling with something.

Sure, if the therapist was there 24/7, that might be different.

But they can’t be.

And so as great as that 1-hour session may be …

This still leaves 167 hours a week for the child to suffer.

And 167 hours where parents have no idea how to help.

Reason #3: Therapy drives a wedge between the parents and the therapist

Most therapists cut their teeth in agency work.

They learnt from burnt out, jaded professionals who’d seen the worst situations in society.

They typically don’t trust parents, and TRY to rebuild attachment, through the child-therapist relationship.

That leads your kiddo to being overly reliant on their therapist, and feeling unable to turn to you.

Or worse … Actively distrusting you.

Reason #4: Therapists act as a middle man

I don’t know about you, but I find the more stages there are in a process, the more complicated it is.

Like in a coffee shop - If one person takes your order and another person makes it, there’s room for error.

But if the same person takes the order and makes the coffee, they’re way less likely to get it wrong.

Same goes for therapy.

The therapist acts as a middle man, which makes for confused connection between you and your kiddo.

Things take longer … The message is misconstrued … And your HSC is hesitant to trust themselves, without constant guidance or approval.

Now, I’m not saying all therapists are bad.

Who knows, you might get lucky.

Maybe you get the one therapist who grew up around HSCs, or has an HSC of their own.

Maybe you find one who’s willing to tailor their whole approach to you and your kiddo.

Or maybe they stumble upon the right way to help you, through sheer luck.

But to me, “maybe” doesn't cut it in this game.

If you want to end the meltdown cycle, and have a calm, confident, happy kiddo, you don’t want to take a risk with therapy.

You want a skilled team, who specialize in helping HSCs and their parents, and don’t fall foul of the 4 points above.

And that’s what we can help you with.

Sure, some of our team has a therapy background.

But we don’t rely on generic, traditional therapy practices.

Instead, we go deep beneath the surface to uncover the real reason your kiddo is struggling.

We work with you to find some “quick wins” that immediately make life easier.

And we lay out a simple-to-follow long-term strategy, designed to take you from a tense, agitated home life, where you’re constantly treading on eggshells or dreading the next meltdown …

… to a happy, stress-free, loving home, where you get to actually do things together as a family.

Free from the stress of meltdowns, outbursts and constant worry.

If that’s what you want -

Click here to book some time with us, today.

For families with high school age teens, click here.

P.S.

One other reason I don’t recommend therapy is the cost.

Unless you go for one of these new online-only therapy apps -- and believe me, you do NOT want to go that route …

You’re looking at about $200 per session …

Once or twice a week …

For at least a year, if not two or three.

Meaning you’re going to spend anywhere between $5,200 and $31,200.

That’s a big chunk of change.

So to save yourself the financial strain, and get the specialized help your kiddo needs, just go here and we’ll get you started.

Talk soon,

Megghan