How are YOU nourishing your child’s emotional diet?

Your child learns how to manage her feelings from you. If your HSC isn’t managing herself, naming her own emotions, or calming herself down, there is a missing link in how you are teaching & leading in your home, ESPECIALLY if daily meltdowns are happening in your home.

HSCs do not learn to generalize the skill of managing emotions from any other professional or environment but from their parent. 

Without daily focus on communicating emotions safely, and learning how to do this independently as a child, your HSC will learn to require others to make her feel better.

This means she will be a boat untethered in a storm as a teen. Wishing for her friends to tell her what to do, but worrying about how she will look if she asks them what to do.

...Wallowing in internal sorrow, and fearful of what others think. 

...Experiencing continued anxiety at best, debilitating depression at worst.

As a young adult she will turn from wishing for direction and emotional support to demanding it. Repelling any close relationships as she goes, because no one wants to be told what to do, especially if they’re being yelled at.

...So she will turn back to you. 

...Demanding that you help her figure this out. 

Either through breaking down in tears or yelling at you that she can “never do anything right!” A phrase you’ve heard often since her childhood...only this time she’s in her 20’s, and you’re less connected to her pain.

This time you get angry. Resentful. And you blame her for never getting it together. So you front her some money because she cut out another roommate in her life. 

You’re both tied to her pain, and no one can break free.

These are the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. Highly Sensitive People develop BPD when they are raised in an invalidating environment. 

Invalidating means the person who raises you doesn’t understand you & your pain in a deep enough way to systematically teach you how to build skills to feel CAPABLE of managing your own emotions. 

...Feeling truly emotionally independent, instead of codependent.

Sensitive children learn to explode or implode to get their emotional intensity across to the people who need to understand them the most. It isn’t an emotional pattern they “grow out of.”

Children don’t grow physically unless they’re fed, cared for and loved. The same goes for their emotional growth. 

How are you nourishing your child’s emotional diet? How are you increasing the variety of their emotional palate? 

When you’re ready to learn to be the emotional leader in your own home, book a call. 

We’ll discuss where you’re struggling, what’s truly likely given your child’s emotional intensity and current development, and what your next steps need to be to rewrite your child’s future, stop surviving, & start thriving in your own home.