Is Time-out Effective For Sensitive Kids?
Have you ever stopped to consider why time-outs might be ineffective?
I get that your kid’s pediatrician, therapist or school counselor probably recommended this tactic, or maybe you remember it “working” for you as a kid…
But let’s face it– time-outs just don’t work for your sensitive kid.
Why?
Because it is an outdated practice that is simply not based in brain science AT ALL.
With all the noise out there on parenting, I totally get that you may have felt like you can rely on a basic old school tactic that wasn’t as harmful as spanking..
And, time-outs expect a level of self-control that isn’t effective.
You can absolutely improve your child’s capacity for self-control, don’t get me wrong.
However, the use of time-outs assume that your child already has the self-control skill that they clearly don’t… otherwise, why would they hit or kick or meltdown in the first place??
Time-outs are simply not based on science. They were a fad for years because some due in the 90’s had a hunch.
The fact of the matter is, time-outs require a child to talk to themselves in their head. This is called “inner speech”.
Guess what? “Inner speech” doesn’t start developing until age 6… and it takes years for the brain to refine that skill.
So you definitely want to check out this week’s show where I break down all the flaws in this approach and why you’re stuck… even if your sensitive kid has grown out of the time-out phase, I'm sure it will be eye opening for you.
