How Can I Help My Kid if They Keep Running Away from Me?
It’s true that you can only help people who WANT your help.
That includes your children.
This is a tough spot to be in, because not only do you want to help your child,
It’s literally your most important job on the planet.
It’s scary when you feel like you can’t help your kid.
It’s even scarier when they run away from you and you know they’re upset.
So when your kid shut you out or physically runs away from you,
What do you do first?
Find your kid… Then what?
Lecture them on the dangers of running away?
Yell at them in hopes that if they feel afraid, they won’t repeat the behavior?
Or walk on eggshells in case they do it again?
Chances are, you’ve tried all 3 things here, so I’m going to tell you what you HAVEN’T tried.
Here it is:
Eliminating the daily meltdown cycle all together.
And at MTC, you can do that in as little as 8 weeks.
First, I want to walk you through why your child is exhibiting this behavior.
It’s not because they want to.
It’s a symptom of the meltdown cycle.
It’s because they don’t know how to experience emotions in a way that feels safe.
When they feel unsafe… for them, that means it’s time to go.
So when your child begins to feel their adrenaline rise if they get into an argument with a friend,
Or anxiety creep up in a crowded place,
They experience this as, “Get me to away from this experience,”
And they don’t have the skills to figure out how to get to safety without running.
And even if you tell them that,
They still don’t know what leads to the meltdown,
So how do you get them from knowing the information…
To believe it?
That is where we come in.
At MTC we’ve helped hundreds of families end the daily meltdown cycle for good.
There is no parenting struggle we haven’t already heard about.
And when your kid is in full on freakout mode and they hightail it out of wherever they are,
They aren’t just trying to avoid the situation.
They are moving away from the source that is causing them an unpleasant emotion.
Why?
Because they don’t have the skills to MANAGE those emotions as they come up.
So it’s feels very strong to them,
And they are willing to do anything to make it stop.
Even if that means running away from you.
So how can we help our kids stop running away from us and actually come to us for help…?
You need a strategy that works for your family.
One of these steps includes teaching your child how to manage those unpleasant emotions, without saying “just ignore it!”
Because that doesn’t help them solve the problem, and it delays progress.
Our team of experts can guide you step by step to help you support your child through their big emotions without coddling, yelling, or empty validation.
The truth is, no one knows your kid more than you do, and this makes you the perfect person to influence them to change.
What you need to learn is how to tailor that influence to the Highly Sensitive trait, to your child’s developmental needs, and to their sense of self-capacity for change.
That part takes partnership with an expert..
You can end the daily meltdowns for your family. Book a free call with our team.
megghanthompsoncoaching.com/talk
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