This morning as I woke up grateful for family snuggles with my 3 year old.

I was also acutely aware that many black families don’t have that privilege without a worry in the back of their mind of when their child’s innocence will be robbed.

Robbed of the safety of walking down the street.
Robbed from speaking up without threat to their life.
Robbed from life.

As our country sits divided, it is my privilege and honor to speak up against racism.

Because to me there’s no line in the sand when it comes to racism.

Our children need us to lead them to notice their emotions and recognize how to process them, without letting their opinions cloud their judgment or impulsivity.

That’s the core skill deficit for those who cannot listen to people who are hurting, and instead choose to refute and invalidate the experiences of others.

And that is a DEADLY skill deficit.

So, as a white business owner, I speak out. This is not a political issue. This is a life or death issue.

THIS. IS. SERIOUS. 

When your child has outbursts and meltdowns on a daily basis, they are experiencing emotions that are out of their control.  They feel lost, confused, and ashamed of these BIG FEELINGS.  And when they don't know how to process and express their emotions in productive ways, they explode.  

And guess what?  This isn't something they will grow out of.  As your HSC grows older, the meltdowns and outbursts will turn into serious risky behavior: 

- Attacking other; verbally and physically

- Chronic depression and/or anxiety

- Self Harm

In this video I discuss:

- the difference between a mental health issue vs. a mental health illness

- how HSC children are commonly misdiagnosed

- Why you need to take action NOW

I know you are a committed parent.  I know you're giving your child the best life you can.  But, if your HSC is experiencing meltdowns and outbursts now, your child needs you to commit even more.  Commit to...

The world around our families is reacting to the recent events of police brutality.  Your child is able to sense the tension taking place and it's important to address that tension by starting and continuing the conversation about race.

In this video, I discuss how to start the conversation about racism with your child. 

Many parents ask me... My child is having meltdowns... is it really that bad? Isn't that normal for kids?

How my 10+ years of expertise working with Highly Sensitive Children & their families and my personal family experiences impacts my opinion, and what that means for your family.

Watch this video to learn more! 

As schools are temporarily closing to avoid spread of COVID-19, and child care arrangements are changing, many parents are reaching out now more than ever for support, especially if their HSC is struggling with big emotions.

Join me as I discuss key points in the opportunities that arise to support your child through unexpected fear.

Watch the video to learn more!

Avoid the vortex of negativity as the media and your newsfeed is freaking out with the coronavirus crisis. Focus on what you can control. 

Now more than ever, as your children are looking to you to see how they can respond to fear.

This video is a great one to come back to as we stay strong, guide ourselves, and focus on love as we lead our children to manage emotions from a place of love.

It starts with you as a parent.

Wise action comes from love, not fear. Not overthinking, not rumination, not spinning through your options in your brain a million times over until "this passes."

Because the truth is that if you don't step out of your own head, and into your heart, your worries actually become ALL you can think about.

And that certainly doesn't solve your problem, and help your HSC creatively learn how to solve theirs.

So if you see your HSC imploding (hiding, running away, struggling to communicate until you PULL it out of them harder than it took them to pop their baby teeth...

Join me as I discuss what to do if your kid's therapist does not know about the Highly Sensitive Personality Trait. 

Why can’t my HSC be happy?

Is my HSC destined for struggle?

We know these are questions that spin through your head. You may have a relative that struggles and you can draw parallels with your child’s behavior. Or perhaps you yourself had a rough childhood and you’re busting your butt to be certain your HSC doesn’t struggle with intense emotions like you did.

In this video, I speak about why your child is struggling in relation to your parenting style. Not to shame you. To help you see what YOU can take action on immediately.

You cannot control how your child relates to the world. But you can for damn sure influence it to the point where your child CHANGES themselves.

Without doing that, your child is left on their own to figure out how to manage their emotions, because they ultimately feel misunderstood. It’s why they say you don’t get it. It’s why they don’t come to you before they have hit their limits, and why they don’t learn...

Your child learns how to manage her feelings from you. If your HSC isn’t managing herself, naming her own emotions, or calming herself down, there is a missing link in how you are teaching & leading in your home, ESPECIALLY if daily meltdowns are happening in your home.

HSCs do not learn to generalize the skill of managing emotions from any other professional or environment but from their parent. 

Without daily focus on communicating emotions safely, and learning how to do this independently as a child, your HSC will learn to require others to make her feel better.

This means she will be a boat untethered in a storm as a teen. Wishing for her friends to tell her what to do, but worrying about how she will look if she asks them what to do.

...Wallowing in internal sorrow, and fearful of what others think. 

...Experiencing continued anxiety at best, debilitating depression at worst.

As a young adult she will turn from wishing for direction and emotional support to...

When your HSC is showing signs of atypical behavior, how do you know it’s related to their personality or to a mental health issue that should be addressed by a professional?

Parents often wonder what the difference is: anxiety that is treatable by a mental health disorder, and the Highly Sensitive Personality trait that has led to behavior problems that is more effectively addressed by a change in parenting?

Today I want to talk about what to do to prevent these behaviors from starting in the first place.

Because without the foundation, you won’t be able to tell what is more concerning, and how to decide how to seek professional guidance.

1. When you’re parenting an HSC, it’s important to evaluate your environment: What routine do you have set up that supports your HSC for success? Are you requiring your child to suck it up and deal more often than supporting their intense emotions? 
2. What are your expectations in parenting? Are you consistent with rules,...