Have you ever stopped to consider why time-outs might be ineffective?
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I get that your kidâs pediatrician, therapist or school counselor probably recommended this tactic, or maybe you remember it âworkingâ for you as a kidâŠÂ
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But letâs face itâ time-outs just donât work for your sensitive kid.Â
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Why?
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Because it is an outdated practice that is simply not based in brain science AT ALL.
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With all the noise out there on parenting, I totally get that you may have felt like you can rely on a basic old school tactic that wasnât as harmful as spanking..Â
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And, time-outs expect a level of self-control that isnât effective.Â
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You can absolutely improve your childâs capacity for self-control, donât get me wrong.
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However, the use of time-outs assume that your child already has the self-control skill that they clearly donât⊠otherwise, why would they hit or kick or meltdown in the first place??
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Time-outs are simply not based on science. They were a fad for years becaus...
Picture yourself in a busy classroom surrounded by 24 other children.Â
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The teacher just finished an engaging Science lesson, but you found yourself missing out on half of it due to the constant distraction of your neighbor's hushed whispers.
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This scenario represents just a glimpse into the daily experiences of highly sensitive children in the school environment.
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Sensitive kids can have many challenges in the school setting, making you wonder if homeschooling is worth considering.
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Especially if your child isâŠ
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đŁ A child who suppresses their emotions during school hours only to release them in the safe haven of home.
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đŁ A child who feels disoriented within the classroom setting, struggling to find their place.
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đŁ A child who exhibits disruptive or detached behavior as a response to overwhelming stimuli.
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It's only natural for you to hope your child's educators will recognize that these behaviors stem from their heightened sensitivity rather than misbehavior.
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You might wonder if just changing the objective, expecting your child to do better at an individual sport like gymnastics or track will decrease the comparison.
You love your sensitive child with all your heart.Â
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But the daily tidal wave of tears, tantrums, and meltdowns leaves you feeling drained and defeated.Â
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No matter how patiently you respond, your child shuts down at the smallest frustration.Â
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You want to help them thrive, but don't know where to start.
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This is not for lack of trying that youâre locked in a daily battle of wills with a child who seems wired to overreact.Â
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The judgmental glares, the well-meaning but useless advice from others, the isolation you feel - it cuts deep.Â
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You question your parenting at every turn.Â
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But here's the truth: you are not alone, and you are not a bad parent.
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In fact, the very act of seeking help makes you an exceptional parent.Â
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It takes courage to admit you need support on this journey. Your child's sensitivity is not a flaw to be fixed, but a difference to be understood and nurtured wisely.Â
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You have it within you to guide them to emotional resilience, self-re...
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You and I both know your child doesnât know how to end the cycle of daily meltdownsâ and yet your average professional w...
Wondering whatâs normal for sensitive kids?
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When your child faces frequent outbursts and emotional turmoil, they are grappling with overwhelming emotions beyond their control.Â
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They feel disoriented, confused, and burdened by these INTENSE FEELINGS.Â
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And when they lack effective strategies to process and express their emotions, they explode.
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And guess what?Â
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This is not a phase they will outgrow.Â
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As your HSC grows older, these meltdowns and outbursts can escalate into significant risky behaviors:
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In this weekâs show we will discuss what behavior is developmentally appropriate, and what is not.
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I understand your unwavering commitment as a parent.Â
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I know that you are striving to provide the best possible life for your child.Â
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And, if your HSC is currently experiencing meltdowns and outbursts, yo...
Ever wonder whether this temperament trait can be proven in research?
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I get it, you want an answer about why your child is struggling significantly, WITHOUT labeling them undulyâŠÂ
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AND make sure youâre covering all of your bases and not missing a serious biological cause for your childâs distress.
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In your research you may have come across the traditional belief or advice that treats your childâs intense meltdowns as diagnosable anxiety, or a developmental delay, or some other pop psychology fad trend.Â
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And yet, you know you (and your spouse/co-parent) arentâ on the same page, youâre reactive when you're not at your best and yelling or throwing your hands up, walking on eggshellsâŠ
and you know this is part of the problem.
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Todayâs message is short, because I am imploring you to save the time to watch this weekâs show.Â
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On it, you will hear me review hundreds of research articles, particularly summarizing one simple fact: Highly Sensitive childrenâs behavior CHANGE...
As an expert in parenting sensitive children stuck in the meltdown cycle, I know your daily struggles are overwhelming.Â
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You want the best for your kids, yet traditional disciplining often backfires, worsening behaviors and hardening family dynamics⊠so youâve obviously done away with thatâŠ
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âŠuntil you hit your limit.Â
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Please don't lose hope - there is a better way.
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You can use gentle parenting philosophy with a sensitive child who is stuck in the meltdown cycle and passionate, driven, and fiery.Â
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But you need to add structure.
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You know research shows meltdowns usually stem not from defiance, but from sensitivities becoming overloaded without constructive outlets.Â
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Since sensitive kids process emotions deeply and seek understanding, problems are exacerbated when theyâre overwhelmed by their own inflexible demands.Â
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Taking this perspective allows you to change your level of empathy for your child.
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Have you ever vented?
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Doesnât it simultaneously fee...
Are your sensitive child's school days filled with distress and challenges?
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Considering homeschooling as the only way to solve this problem?
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You undoubtedly want your childâs education to cultivate potential, not erode self-esteem, yetâŠ
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Seeing them drowning in overwhelm at home understandably sparks your protective instincts to advocate for drastic change.
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This creates a sense of overwhelm for yourself, and yet you and I both know thatâs not who you truly are.
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You are your childâs advocate.
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So, before you pull your kiddo out of schoolâŠfocus on building that identity, and educate yourself on what itâs like to homeschool.
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It might not be right for your family, so itâs important to do your research⊠but either way, no matter who is your childâs teacher, you will need to be her advocate.
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An advocate accurately defines challenges to gain insight, not judgment, from school staff.
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An advocate partners with the teaching team, eliminating assumptions of your ...
A child who is reaching their fullest potential feels successful in these 5 avenues: community, friendships, academics, family, and inner emotional intelligence.
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A child does not categorize their inner self concept by how many of those categories they are thriving in and counting the highlights.
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One category of a perceived failure to a sensitive soul is enough to be debilitating, especially if they're perfectionistic.
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Sensitive kids don't think "at least 4 out of 5 areas are good".Â
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One failure damages their spirit.
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I know youâre doing the best you can, and believe your struggling child when they say it's not okay.
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Do not diminish their meltdowns by saying "at home is their safe space".Â
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No, daily chaos means they feel unsafe everywhere.
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It is not resilience if children "cope" with inner turmoil alone.Â
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They deserve tools to regulate their big feelings.
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When perfectionistic kids can't achieve in one domain, they lose belief in themselves complete...
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